Archive | July 2013

You may think it’s impossible to be happy being yourself…

You may think it’s impossible to be happy being yourself. Every day, it’s easy to wish you looked like or acted like someone else, or had the cushy job or great boyfriend that someone else has. However, until you learn to accept who you are and work to address your flaws, you’ll never grow as a person. Once you follow these tips, you’ll find that being  happy  with being yourself isn’t as hard as you think.


Be Happy With Who You Are



    Be confident. Being confident about who you are is the first step to happiness. Recognizing what you love about yourself first will make you much happier to be in your own skin. Start by making a list of all of the things you love about yourself, whether it’s your free spirit, your work ethic, or your shiny hair. Here are some ways to improve your confidence:

    • Think of the compliments you get. If people are always telling you you’re a great friend, or admiring your ability to find balance in your life, they’re probably on to something.


    • Appreciate what makes you unique. How cool–you speak four languages, can walk on your hands, or can instantly make new friends. Not everyone can do that, but you can!


    • Find at least ten things you like about yourself. This should be easy and fun and will make you think about what makes you so great.


    • Minimize your insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something, but if you find yourself insecure about absolutely everything about yourself, you’re probably filling yourself with anxiety for no reason. Make a list of all the things that make you insecure and examine which ones are just plan silly.



  2. Recognize your flaws. Confidence is the key to happiness, but if you’re so confident that you don’t recognize where there’s room for improvement, you won’t be seeing your real self and may be an unpleasant person to be around. Here are some ways to be real about who you are:

    • Accept constructive criticism. If someone is rude or just plain cruel about your not-so-great qualities, you don’t have to listen. But if your friend, parent, or even your coworker suggests that you need to work on a certain aspect of yourself, such as your listening skills or your attention to detail, listen with an open mind. 

    • Make a list of things you want to work on. Pick a few flaws you want to address and make a game plan for execution. For example, if you feel like you’re being selfish, take the time to give back to your community. If you think you’re a bit narcissistic, make a concerted effort to spend less time talking about yourself next time you hang out with a friend. 

    • Learn to laugh at yourself. Nobody’s perfect, and if you can join your friends when they tease you for your foibles, such as your impossibly messy room, or your inability to arrive anywhere on time, you’ll show that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Remember that you can laugh at yourself while making a note to try to improve—if you’re always late, try to get everywhere fifteen minutes early, and you may actually arrive on time for once. 

    • Forgive yourself. Let’s face it–we’ve all done something we’re less than proud of. Maybe you said something really cruel to a friend, cheated on your boyfriend or girlfriend, or made a major mistake at work. Whatever you did, you should recognize that it was wrong and understand why you did it, but after that, it’s time to let it go. If you’re so hung up on your past mistakes, you won’t be able to focus on the future.

  3. Be grateful. Never forget how lucky you are to be you. If you spend so much time obsessing about your flaws and things you want to change, you’ll never be fully happy just being yourself. Here are some ways to be grateful:

    • Appreciate your health. If you’re a health person who doesn’t have trouble walking, eating, or sleeping, be grateful! There are many people whose lives revolve around their poor health, and if you’re not one of them, don’t forget how lucky you are.


    • Be generous. Volunteer in your community, donate canned goods or clothing, and do anything you can to help those who are less fortunate. You can also be a generous friend, son/daughter, sibling, or spouse by doing nice things for the important people in your life.


    • Always say thank you. You should always say “thank you,” whether you’re thanking your local barista for an amazing cup of coffee or you’re thanking your father for always being there for you. Try to say “thank you” for something different at least five times a day!

  4. Don’t forget to laugh—ever. Laughter is a common remedy for all ailments, and you should always leave some room for laughter in your daily life. No matter how dire your life may seem at a given moment, never forget to take a break to laugh. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll live longer. Here are some ways to remember to laugh:

    • Be just plain silly. Tell a corny joke, make a bad pun, or just dance around like a fool. Why not?


    • Watch a comedy or a comedian. This will make you laugh and can cheer you up.


    • Be around people who love to laugh. Laughter is contagious!

  5. Never go a day without laughing. If you’ve had a really bad day and spent most of it with an upside-down smile, play with your kitty, watch your favorite comedy sketch on TV, or listen to your favorite goofy song. If you have to force yourself to laugh, do it!


  • Don’t compare yourself to other people. This will only make your frustrated. Instead of focusing on what others have, focus on what makes you who you are.

  • Jealousy can poison your life. Try to avoid being jealous of what your friends have–remind yourself that they may be jealous of you, too. Turn your jealousy of your friends’ great qualities into admiration.

  • Do something that you love at least once a day, whether it be listening to a song that you love, or dancing in your underwear in your bedroom.

  • Try to be outgoing. People love it when a person randomly starts making conversation. Don’t overdo it though.

  • Try-helping others. There is nothing like helping someone else to help improve your self confidence and to make you realize how lucky you are.

  • Respect others.

PS:  I dont know who is the author of these amazing words )))) 

But I want to say :

The best way to gain selfconfidence is to do what you are

afraid to do

“As I Began to Love Myself ”

As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.

Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much I can offend somebody. As I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.

Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.

Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that in any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm.

Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.

Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.

Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrongless of the time.

Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where EVERYTHING is happening.

Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.

Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.

Today I know THAT IS “LIFE”!

 Charlie Chaplin

You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it.

The Pursuit of Happyness quotes

Chris Gardner: Hey. Don’t ever let somebody tell you… You can’t do something. Not even me. All right?

Christopher: All right.

Chris Gardner: You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do somethin’ themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want somethin’, go get it. Period.


The important thing about that freedom train, is it’s got to climb mountains. We ALL have to climb mountains, you know. Mountains that go way up high, and mountains that go deep and low. Yes, we know what those mountains are here at Glide. We sing about them.


It was at that time that I thought about Thomas Jefferson writing that Declaration of Independence. Him saying that we have the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. And I thought about how he knew to put the ‘pursuit’ in there, like no one can actually have happiness. We can only pursue it.


Christopher Gardner: You gotta trust me, all right?

Christopher: I trust you.


PS: This movie is good, enthralling and thought provoking. I like it  very much)))

I also want to say.

 Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of

happiness and just be happy.(Guillaume Apollinaire)

The Soul – Bird

O world-ignorance,
You have shackled my feet, 
I am free.

You have chained my hands, 
I am free.

You have enslaved my body, 
I am free.


I am free because I am not of the body.
I am free because I am not the body,
I am free because I am the soul-bird
That flies in Infinity- Sky.
I am the soul-child that dreams
On the Lap of the immortal King Supreme.

Sri Chinmoy

Birds Flying in Line With Feathers So Fine

Five blue birds sitting in a tree,
The first bird said, “Look what I see.”
The second bird said, “Look what I see.”
The third bird said, “Their feathers are so fine.”
The fourth bird said, “Quick, let’s fly away!”
The fifth bird said, “No, let’s all stay.”
Then a black bird said, “Let’s win!”
“Join us, and we’ll be ten.”

Well, all the birds flew together
In all kinds of weather.
Through the blue sky,
All ten would fly.
Till own brith summer day,
the blue birds in the tree did stay.
The black birds kept flying in line,
Leaving their new friends to pine.
Once again they were five and five!