Tag Archive | Myself

I always feel as if I’m struggling to become someone else…

“I always feel as if I’m struggling to become someone else. As if I’m trying to find a new place, grab hold of a new life, a new personality. I suppose it’s part of growing up, yet it’s also an attempt to re-invent myself. By becoming a different me, I could free myself of everything. I seriously believed I could escape myself – as long as I made the effort. But I always hit a dead end. No matter where I go, I still end up me. What’s missing never changes. The scenery may change, but I’m still the same old incomplete person. The same missing elements torture me with a hunger that I can never satisfy. I think that lack itself is as close as I’ll come to defining myself.”

Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun


There are people out there who get their kicks by using words as sticks. They will put you down and drag your soul through the ground…


 There are people out there who get their kicks
by using words as sticks.
They will put you down
and drag your soul through the ground.
They do this because of ignorance
and jealousy of your brilliance.

All through life
you must stand up to this strife.
Doesn’t matter that you are different
just remember to make yourself a commitment.
I won’t let them condemn
because I don’t listen to them.
I am me
and in this knowledge I will remain free to be!

© Cheryl Holloway


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I’m only me…

I’m only me.

That is all I can be.

No more, no less, don’t second guess.

I love, I live, I laugh, I cry.

Some days I’m funny, others I’m not,

sometimes I’m in overdrive and I can’t stop.

You may not like me,

but that’s okay

because this is me and how I’ll stay.


When I think of where I am going, I am filled with enthusiasm. I am proud of where I am today because I know it is just the beginning of greater things to come.

I am the master of my future

My tomorrow is dictated by my actions today. How I act today is the blueprint for my future. Daily, I spend time reflecting on my actions and attitudes in order to alter my habits. I practice good habits because they breed success.

I choose to use my time wisely. Therefore my time is spent on activities that benefit me. Every decision I make is carefully thought out and evaluated because I am committed to shaping my future. In the end, I choose to do only that which brings me closer to my goals.

I focus on what I can control and release myself from unnecessary pressures. I control my reactions and I react with wisdom in order to live free from regret. Doing so allows me to enjoy the fruit of my hard work in serenity and peace.

My future is well planned because I set high standards for myself.

I know where I want to go in my career, relationships, and other areas of personal growth. My plan includes strategies on how to become and achieve more.

When I think of where I am going, I am filled with enthusiasm. I am proud of where I am today because I know it is just the beginning of greater things to come. My future is a place that I face with expectation and uncontainable anticipation.

Today, in every decision I make, I am conscious of my future well-being.

You may think it’s impossible to be happy being yourself…

You may think it’s impossible to be happy being yourself. Every day, it’s easy to wish you looked like or acted like someone else, or had the cushy job or great boyfriend that someone else has. However, until you learn to accept who you are and work to address your flaws, you’ll never grow as a person. Once you follow these tips, you’ll find that being  happy  with being yourself isn’t as hard as you think.


Be Happy With Who You Are



    Be confident. Being confident about who you are is the first step to happiness. Recognizing what you love about yourself first will make you much happier to be in your own skin. Start by making a list of all of the things you love about yourself, whether it’s your free spirit, your work ethic, or your shiny hair. Here are some ways to improve your confidence:

    • Think of the compliments you get. If people are always telling you you’re a great friend, or admiring your ability to find balance in your life, they’re probably on to something.


    • Appreciate what makes you unique. How cool–you speak four languages, can walk on your hands, or can instantly make new friends. Not everyone can do that, but you can!


    • Find at least ten things you like about yourself. This should be easy and fun and will make you think about what makes you so great.


    • Minimize your insecurities. Everyone is insecure about something, but if you find yourself insecure about absolutely everything about yourself, you’re probably filling yourself with anxiety for no reason. Make a list of all the things that make you insecure and examine which ones are just plan silly.



  2. Recognize your flaws. Confidence is the key to happiness, but if you’re so confident that you don’t recognize where there’s room for improvement, you won’t be seeing your real self and may be an unpleasant person to be around. Here are some ways to be real about who you are:

    • Accept constructive criticism. If someone is rude or just plain cruel about your not-so-great qualities, you don’t have to listen. But if your friend, parent, or even your coworker suggests that you need to work on a certain aspect of yourself, such as your listening skills or your attention to detail, listen with an open mind. 

    • Make a list of things you want to work on. Pick a few flaws you want to address and make a game plan for execution. For example, if you feel like you’re being selfish, take the time to give back to your community. If you think you’re a bit narcissistic, make a concerted effort to spend less time talking about yourself next time you hang out with a friend. 

    • Learn to laugh at yourself. Nobody’s perfect, and if you can join your friends when they tease you for your foibles, such as your impossibly messy room, or your inability to arrive anywhere on time, you’ll show that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Remember that you can laugh at yourself while making a note to try to improve—if you’re always late, try to get everywhere fifteen minutes early, and you may actually arrive on time for once. 

    • Forgive yourself. Let’s face it–we’ve all done something we’re less than proud of. Maybe you said something really cruel to a friend, cheated on your boyfriend or girlfriend, or made a major mistake at work. Whatever you did, you should recognize that it was wrong and understand why you did it, but after that, it’s time to let it go. If you’re so hung up on your past mistakes, you won’t be able to focus on the future.

  3. Be grateful. Never forget how lucky you are to be you. If you spend so much time obsessing about your flaws and things you want to change, you’ll never be fully happy just being yourself. Here are some ways to be grateful:

    • Appreciate your health. If you’re a health person who doesn’t have trouble walking, eating, or sleeping, be grateful! There are many people whose lives revolve around their poor health, and if you’re not one of them, don’t forget how lucky you are.


    • Be generous. Volunteer in your community, donate canned goods or clothing, and do anything you can to help those who are less fortunate. You can also be a generous friend, son/daughter, sibling, or spouse by doing nice things for the important people in your life.


    • Always say thank you. You should always say “thank you,” whether you’re thanking your local barista for an amazing cup of coffee or you’re thanking your father for always being there for you. Try to say “thank you” for something different at least five times a day!

  4. Don’t forget to laugh—ever. Laughter is a common remedy for all ailments, and you should always leave some room for laughter in your daily life. No matter how dire your life may seem at a given moment, never forget to take a break to laugh. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll live longer. Here are some ways to remember to laugh:

    • Be just plain silly. Tell a corny joke, make a bad pun, or just dance around like a fool. Why not?


    • Watch a comedy or a comedian. This will make you laugh and can cheer you up.


    • Be around people who love to laugh. Laughter is contagious!

  5. Never go a day without laughing. If you’ve had a really bad day and spent most of it with an upside-down smile, play with your kitty, watch your favorite comedy sketch on TV, or listen to your favorite goofy song. If you have to force yourself to laugh, do it!


  • Don’t compare yourself to other people. This will only make your frustrated. Instead of focusing on what others have, focus on what makes you who you are.

  • Jealousy can poison your life. Try to avoid being jealous of what your friends have–remind yourself that they may be jealous of you, too. Turn your jealousy of your friends’ great qualities into admiration.

  • Do something that you love at least once a day, whether it be listening to a song that you love, or dancing in your underwear in your bedroom.

  • Try to be outgoing. People love it when a person randomly starts making conversation. Don’t overdo it though.

  • Try-helping others. There is nothing like helping someone else to help improve your self confidence and to make you realize how lucky you are.

  • Respect others.

PS:  I dont know who is the author of these amazing words )))) 

But I want to say :

The best way to gain selfconfidence is to do what you are

afraid to do